Written by: Miji Pearse

What it Takes to Date a West African Man


Dating a West African man is not rocket science. Typically, if you were raised in a traditional home with two West African parents, it’s easier to pick up on the role that women play within a relationship with a West African man. However, if this experience alluded you, as it once did me, this article will be of great help!

Many West African or culturally based African men possess a very strong and masculine exterior with a warm and gentle inner self.(I mean have you read Achebe’s ‘Things fall Apart?’). They are what you call, REAL MEN; very solid! These men take pride in being a provider, protector, defender, adviser, intense lover, teacher and sometimes a student.


As the counterpart to a West African man, their women are sought to be feminine in all that the word embodies. Allowing him to serve as the primary masculine energy within the relationship by not challenging his every word, or every action builds his confidence that then allows him to take on the world for you and your family. West African men support a woman who is a hard worker. However, by no means should your work ethic make you so independent that you no longer see a need for him. In a West African man’s eyes, no level of wealth will ever replace the need for an African woman and vice versa.

Most West African men want a woman who knows her tribe’s history and culture. If you are Yoruba, brush up on the history or sociology of your people. This shows him that you are not only proud of your heritage, but that your knowledge will be passed down to his children one day. It will also serve to be rather impressive to his parents, which will more than likely hold their traditional values very dear.  

No matter what the culture, the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. It is an ABSOLUTE MUST that before a West African man takes you to meet his parents; you must be able to cook a fulfilling meal. So ladies, if you don’t know how to make moi moi, a pot of egusi stew, curry goat or okra soup with fufu-pounded yam (minus the lumps), now’s a good time, if any, to learn how.

And last, but VERY important, be quiet! There is no need to comment or speak about everything under the sun. You’ll drive your West African man CRAZY! West African culture in general values women and men that have diplomacy and self-control. So control your tongue, don’t allow your temperament to be up and down, based on your emotions and save the talkative  times for your girlfriends or your sisters, not your West African man.

Regardless of your disinclination or inclination towards this article, there is a lot of truth to it. “To Date a West African Man” has been inspired by girl chatter, male banter, and evident cultural/dating experiences.

To date a West African Woman, coming soon.

  5 comments for “TO DATE A WEST AFRICAN MAN

  1. April 9, 2013 at 2:40 pm

    Great Miji!

  2. Araba
    April 9, 2013 at 5:32 pm

    Universal truth! Love it!

    • mediafritiq
      April 9, 2013 at 6:57 pm

      Glad you enjoyed it.

      • sylvia
        September 11, 2015 at 12:31 am

        Article very interesting. However, I believe that we are all entrenched within some cultural and natural traits. I believe that it is the inner beauty of one’s soul and personality that makes you as a person who you are. We speak of certain stereotypical men being providers, protectors, lovers and so forth, yet time and selfishness as well as complacence’s (?) change people.

  3. September 6, 2015 at 7:15 pm

    I could meet lovely and kind men

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